We just got back from two weeks of wonderful family time in Mexico. That’s 14 days of delicious food!
We went out for incredible dinners almost every night, all of which involved multiple courses. Some of the stars of the trip included the creamiest burrata of my life, guacamole made table-side eaten on thick and crispy corn tortillas, super sweet fruit platters, French fries, leafy green salads, scoops of chocolate ice cream, seafood, seafood, and did I mention seafood? Most evenings, we washed it down with a glass (or two) of wine.
On Saturday night, after 14 days of delicious food, I walked in the door of my house feeling so good.
I didn’t feel stuffed, uncomfortable in my pants, or like I had spent two weeks “eating too much.” I didn’t feel like I needed to repent, “eat clean,” or workout extra.
I felt happy, relaxed, and nourished. I felt grateful.
There was a time when I thought having a fun and easy relationship with food had everything to do with food. After years of healing my own relationship with food and now, after years of helping hundreds of other women do the same, I know a different truth: it’s mostly about everything else (and just a tiny bit about food).
So, how do we go from obsessing over food, obsessing over our weight, judging food, judging ourselves, constantly critiquing our bodies, and constantly thinking about how to lose weight, to simply enjoying a family vacation? To simply enjoying being IN our bodies? To simply enjoying delicious food?
How do we get to a place where we fall in love with our beautifully imperfect lives – food, bodies, and beyond?
Here’s what I know: living a life that means something to you, that feels fulfilling, that elevates the things you value most, is probably going to require you to do something (or all things) on this list:
- To discover your deep, inherent worth that could never be manipulated by the number on the scale
- To speak your truth rather than lying because it is what you think someone wants to hear (and yes, figuring out how to know what that “truth” sounds like is often part of the process I help women with)
- To prioritize inner peace over outward busy
- To learn to live in a body that doesn’t look like a magazine photo and NOT actively try to manipulate or change it
- To let food be food, and not make it the answer to every question in your life
- To build lasting relationships (including the one with yourself) full of compassion, forgiveness, authenticity and honesty rather than constantly “upgrading” through “out with the old and in with the new” mentality
- To let go of the façade of control and embrace connection instead
- To discover you’re worth really being heard, really being cared for, really being seen, really being loved, and really being known
- To find the COURAGE to step back and ask, “what matters to me?”
- To develop the BRAVERY to look at 50 magazines at the airport telling you that everything you ever wanted is on the other side of 10, 15, or 20 pounds and ask yourself, “does that actually even make sense to me? Does that sound even remotely like reality?”
- To activate your deep inner BADASS-NESS to say, “I no longer want to be who I’ve been told I should be, I want to discover who I truly am.”
In my eyes, all women are courageous, brave, and badass. Some of us just need a little support to get in touch with who we truly are (I know I did).
I’m so excited to support courageous, brave, and badass women in 2018.
If there is a way I can support you this year, click here and let me know. I’m here for you!